It’s been
nine months since my last blog entry, and eight months since our little world
changed again. I have been meaning to sit down and write the story of our second
adoption, but the whirlwind and subsequent day to day life of raising two
little boys has somehow prevented that from happening.
Until now.
I thought it was time to sit down and finally tell the story of this
second little miracle.
I am going to try
to keep it as brief as possible, and touch on other aspects of it down the
road.
Today, I just want to tell you how
it all came to be.
It is such a little
miracle.
If you haven’t
already read my last entry, written just weeks before this second baby came,
“ComeWhat May and Love It” was about accepting and embracing the fact that I might
only ever have one child, and that I was okay with that.
Haha!
I think God has a way of waiting until you have truly given in, before
giving you the thing you desired in the first place.
And, after years and years of fighting it, I
had truly gotten to that place.
And then…..bam!
aby came
into our lives, you should read it.
I think the
timeline is kind of funny, so I will share it with you. My friend, who adopted three children from
the same birth mother, messaged me Facebook.
Here is how the conversation went:
May 13
MY FRIEND: Hi Susan. I know u haven't heard
from me for a long time, but would u mind giving me your number so I can call
you?
ME:
Sure!
MY FRIEND: Hi Susan. I'll call u at around
2pm. If you're not available then, I'll try again later. Not to be mysterious
or anything. Just want to talk to you about adoption.
We had a
phone conversation, in which she told me that the birth mother of her three
children was expecting any day now, and they just couldn’t take a fifth child
and would we be interested. Now, let me
tell you that a lot of people might have been super excited. But, I honestly had no idea that this would
really go through. I mean, the birth
mother didn’t even know us. And,
considering our past experience with a failed adoption, and knowing that people
had approached us before about “a sure thing” and we had never heard from them
again, I did not even think twice about it.
I said yes, we would be interested, and then I thought I would cross
that bridge when a paper had been signed.
The mother didn’t have a due date since there had been no prenatal
doctor visits since very early on in the pregnancy.
A week
passed and I got this message on Facebook:
May 20th
MY FRIEND:
Hi Susan. Just wanted to update u. I still haven't heard anything from ####,
the Birth mom. I spoke to ####'s mom this morning and she hasn't heard anything
as well. Sorry for the delay of information. Hope all is well for you.
ME: No
problem. Like I said before, we are used to things not coming through so we
aren't holding our breath! But, thanks for thinking of us. I talked to our
adoption social worker and she said it would be a private adoption, so we would
have to figure out how to pay for it. But we will cross that bridge when we
come to it. Thanks!
Just as I
suspected. It wasn’t going to pan
out. Glad I didn’t spend any time
looking at baby clothes!
Four days
later, on Friday afternoon, May 24th, I was at the park with D
and I got a call from my friend. She
said the birth mom had spoken to the social worker and had given her our
names. Okay, now it was a little more
serious, but still…..call me when someone has signed a piece of paper and when
a baby has been born! I hung up the
phone a little more anxious, but still not getting my hopes up. I thought about the whole possibility for a
few minutes, when the phone rang again.
It was 4:30 in the afternoon.
This time it was the social worker, Christine. She told me that the birth parents had spoken
with her and given her our names and they were sure they wanted to place the
baby with us. Okay…this was even more
serious. But, she hadn’t been able to
get a meeting with them to get papers signed.
It was Memorial Day weekend, and she said she would try to get it all in
place this weekend and update me next week.
I hung up and started thinking that this really could happen. However, still….call me when someone has
signed a dang piece of paper! I went
home and told John and we chatted about it for a minute, but knew nothing was
set in stone, so off to bed we went.
Saturday
morning, May 25th, 8:00 a.m.
I was getting dressed for work when the phone rang. It was Christine. The birth mom was in labor and on her way to
the hospital. Long story short, she had
to get an adoption plan in place and signed by them before the baby was
born. They suspected the baby would be
born positive for drugs, and the county would take it away if an adoption plan
wasn’t already in place. If the county
took the baby, the birth parents wouldn’t have a say in where it was
placed. But, we also had to have a
lawyer’s signature. God steps in on
these little miracles, I know He does.
Christine just happened to be in the process of adopting a baby herself,
and because of the circumstances, even though she was a social worker, she
needed an adoption attorney. She said “the
only lawyer I have in my phone that will answer my call at 8:30 on a Saturday
morning is the one we are using.” I said
I trust that an adoption social worker knows how to hire a good adoptions
attorney and that I trusted her judgment.
She said the only other hang up could be if the county social worker
decided this adoption plan hadn’t been put in place soon enough, then she would
have the right to take the baby, if and when it was born positive for
drugs. She called back thirty minutes
later and said everything was in place.
The lawyer was on board and the county social worker said she was fine
with the plan and had no intention of disrupting it. One hour later, he was born.
I didn’t
know about him until 12:30 that afternoon.
I was at work with butterflies in my stomach. I was texting and calling family and friends
and the lawyer and the social worker and my friend. At 12:30, Christine called and said the
father had called her and said he had been born at 9:33 a.m., 22 inches long,
12 pounds and ready for school! Haha! He was huge!
And the
kicker? He was born on my son’s
birthday. D and baby S share the
same birthday. Isn’t that amazing? I had decided to have D’s birthday party
the previous Wednesday, and I don’t know why.
His birthday was on a Saturday, and that would have been easy to
do. But, I had chosen not to. And now I know why. D was born at 7:33 a.m. four years
earlier, and S was born that morning at 9:33 a.m. It was, and continues to be a miracle. I got to drive up to Anaheim that night with
a friend, and see this little miracle ten hours after he had been born. A baby I had no idea was going to actually
come into my life just the day before, and I was sitting in the hospital
nursery holding him. He was beautiful
and huge and precious and mine. There is
more to the rest of the story, but I will save that for another post. Just know that I know that God knows each of
us. He knows us personally. He answers our prayers, and sometimes that
answer is “no.” And sometimes the answer
is “not right now.” And sometimes the
answer is “yes.” And all the “no”
answers and all the “not right now” answers make that “yes” answer just that
much more precious.