tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2921276013954669726.post5805825720187880278..comments2023-04-06T03:51:35.256-07:00Comments on Adoption: Am I racist for wanting a white baby?Susanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01751349186767943561noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2921276013954669726.post-67148478188163266502014-07-20T13:53:35.182-07:002014-07-20T13:53:35.182-07:00Tha you, Rosa. I did.a little research after read...Tha you, Rosa. I did.a little research after reading your comment, and will go back and revise the post. It's how it was labeled in the class, but you're right, and I will make the change soon. Thanks for your input.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01751349186767943561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2921276013954669726.post-71654420588282427112014-07-20T11:09:16.035-07:002014-07-20T11:09:16.035-07:00I just wanted to point out that latino isnt a race...I just wanted to point out that latino isnt a race. Latinos can be white, indigenous, mixed, black, etc. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00643399298408295200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2921276013954669726.post-79946537262064312642013-11-05T21:32:01.601-08:002013-11-05T21:32:01.601-08:00Its funny we filled out that paperwork too. We sa...Its funny we filled out that paperwork too. We said yes to every race except Native American because we had heard that the tribes could get involved. We said no to Special Needs Parents.. and No to Schitzophrenia. 2 years later we were contacted by my aunt whose daughter was expecting and wanted to place her baby with us through adoption. She was a adult with special needs... the Birth father has schitzophrenia... and we discovered that My cousin and I have a native american family history. We had to get permission to adopt from 4 tribes. <br />So in my opinion those little boxes don't matter... when its right... its right.<br />By the way my daughter is biracial... African American, caucasion and native american. It doesn't matter she is mine. But I do worry some times if it will matter to her some day. Her cousin, my sisters son is Biracial as well and we hope that helps. dazymaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06575474230077787825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2921276013954669726.post-91473576292232872482013-09-08T15:38:02.756-07:002013-09-08T15:38:02.756-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2921276013954669726.post-24920053004491103282012-06-27T22:10:21.057-07:002012-06-27T22:10:21.057-07:00I tell families wanting to adopt that they need to...I tell families wanting to adopt that they need to think about their ability to parent a child of another ethnicity or race, and this is different from befriending someone from another ethnicity or race. You will need to teach that child about their culture, style their unique hair, and help them deal with prejudice. You also need to deal with your reaction to others treating your child with prejudice. Not everyone can do this, and you are not a bad person if you cannot. I tell people that I would not be able to handle the latter well enough to be a good example to the child. I think someone admitting to this puts them at ease that I will not think they are a racist for wanting a child the same ethnicity as them.Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09373196314064246658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2921276013954669726.post-3453749211112463102012-02-10T13:35:04.142-08:002012-02-10T13:35:04.142-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2921276013954669726.post-52490473343344634572012-02-03T14:22:03.553-08:002012-02-03T14:22:03.553-08:00Thanks Mel! I really enjoyed the things you had t...Thanks Mel! I really enjoyed the things you had to say. So interesting that your little girl was finally okay with her look after being around other babies in the family that look more like her. That's a lot of what I was talking about in the post. Yes, it makes total sense! It can be a sensitive topic and I hope we can raise our children to not be super sensitive about it, but also let them know that it is a big part of them and it's okay to want to see other people that look like them. I love hearing it from someone actually in the middle of it all, so thanks so much for sharing. It's really interesting--a lot of comments that were very understanding of the fact that race was an issue and that it definitely played a role came to me via e-mail. Still a touch subject in 2012. It is a changing world and I hope that our kids will have a much easier time growing up in a multi-racial family than our peers did thirty years ago.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01751349186767943561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2921276013954669726.post-29445273803090623552012-01-31T13:47:00.758-08:002012-01-31T13:47:00.758-08:00I'm loving your posts! You write what I've...I'm loving your posts! You write what I've been thinking for the past 9 years of adopting & fostering. I need to write more. haha When we first filled out our adoption papers with our now 9 yr old son, we had to, of course, answer all the questions. We decided we'd choose 1/2 of any race if the other 1/2 was Caucasian. My husband & I are both blonde blue eyes so we figured this way the child wouldn't be totally left out. Well when a bmom chose us, baby was going to be 1/2 Hispanic/Caucasian. That's our son. Next child (full) Hispanic..we think. Sadly through fostering we don't get a good history. Of course she's a girl, longing for blonde hair & blue eyes. It wasn't until we got these 2 foster babies that she became more comfortable with her own look. Here's what we have. 2 boys with blue eyes, 2 girls with black hair, brown eyes. Little foster baby looks just like our daughter when she was her age! It's given our 6 yr old a sense of appreciation for her own looks seeing them on a baby. Does that make sense? I think it's important for kids to see someone they look like or who has a similar coloring so they're not alone, even inside the family. However it is a difficult and sensitive topic. I had a lady at Costo look at my daughter and say, "she's a Mexican girl!" Really? could you be more tacky? Luckily (I don't think) my daughter heard. People just assume my husband is Hispanic & comment about how the boys got my blue eyes. Sorry, rambling. But this stuff gets me going. hahahaMelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08439602247044723505noreply@blogger.com